Pay It Forward: Don't Take it Personally, Staying True to Yourself
Today I will be writing about staying true to yourself as an artist and things that tend to cloud your mental head space.
Dealing with Conflicting Schedules
The average songwriter dedicates their time to make the best out of their own craft all while managing general life expectations(school,work,family,etc). In addition, they are also expected to go and support the "scene." That seems completely manageable right? Wrong!!
In the end you have to find your way to manage your own time to allow yourself to be able to work on your own craft. Keep in mind that no one owes you anything and you should never take anything personally when a fellow musician is not able to attend your show especially when you are able to recognize that these conflicts do exist for every musician.
Some musicians may judge you based on how often you come to their shows, you can't let that affect you. An understanding person would realize that you won't be able to see the same face at every show because every person has a different schedule that allows for your time to be on the stage and to work on yourself.
Not Everyone Likes You, So Go and Like Yourself
I was talking to my friend last week about my perception of the Philadelphia music scene and music communities in general. She mentioned that "The West Philly Scene is killing it and has always been united." I made fun of her and said well isn't the West Philly Scene just an entire part of Philadelphia?
I started to think, is a band officially more liked because they are a "west philly band" let alone just from "philly?" What really goes into whether a band is liked or not? Does it even matter?
I have realized no matter what anyone says, none of it matters. I am not encouraging social apathy by any means as a defense mechanism to look "cool" or "edgy" but instead release your negative headspace in order to restore a positive orientation in bettering your craft. When you find this form of freedom, you put less effort into changing yourself to fit the mold of others, and more effort into creating the person you want to be as a musician. Give yourself enough credit to know that the art you are creating is serving the purpose that you intend for it to show.
No one owes you anything
I know I have said this before and I will say it again. No one owes you anything. No matter whether you book shows, own a facebook group, are what people call "the best dudes" or run a label no one owes you anything. The music community,scene and industry as a whole should not run on hand outs and favors, but on the appreciation of music and creative diversity as a whole.
Learn to respect people's musical tastes even if those tastes do not fit with your style of music. Artists can not control people, but instead their success relies on the preferences of those people. When you are able to keep this in mind and realize that your contributions should not be done for the sake of getting something out of people, but for the love of art, you will recognize that your artistic contributions will be viewed as more genuine.
That's all for today folks, I won't be posting as often due to the fact that I need to focus more on LP1 and playing a few upcoming shows. Check out my show schedule and come out to a show in the next few weeks!